Saturday, August 6, 2011

Are they for us or against us?

As a mother of daughters, I felt that there were many more things to teach them besides the usual be nice; use your manners; be fair, honest, loyal; blahblahblah—the common things everyone teaches their children. When raising daughters, there are added lessons to be taught.

I am an avid reader of skirt! Magazine. I read it from cover to cover and then I cut it up and make scrapbook pages for the lovelies’ scrapbooks. I enjoy the magazine because they seem to stand for many of the same things that I spent all these years teaching my daughters. Life lessons such as stand up for yourself; appreciate your female ancestry for the hardships they willingly and bravely faced so that you wouldn’t have to; learn all that you can about everything; let your actions reflect your independent thinking; don’t settle because settling is giving up; challenge yourself every day; challenge authority instead of blindly following; be willing to be spontaneous; find the humor in every situation and laugh out loud; accept challenges head on; take a risk; believe in yourself; be a student of life; find your own path and invite a man to travel it with you ONLY if you want him there not because society dictates it… etc.

I have noticed, however, that perhaps this magazine is sending out (inadvertently, I hope) a mixed message. On one hand, they promote feminism; support and encourage women to believe in themselves, make discoveries, be independent, and so on. But, if you pay attention to the ads that are run in the magazine, you’ll soon make a discovery. There is hardly a page without an ad suggesting that the readers should not accept themselves as they are but take great strides (and spend lots of money) changing themselves. Forget inner beauty ladies- fix your outside and maybe your inside will come along.

In just one issue I discovered the following:

5 ads promoting a whiter, straighter more attractive smile
8 ads suggesting women need a better body via Botox, breast augmentation, face lifts, etc.
19 ads advising only women without skin imperfections or wrinkles and hair on their face and bodies will be at the top of their game
4 ads advocating thinness as beautiful-excess weight as not
6 ads encouraging health and wellness
1 ads alleging our hair color isn’t good enough (ok, you got me on this one- I do reach for the Miss Clairol sometimes)
3 ads promising a reversal of the aging process
17 upscale clothing stores

I’m not opposed to any human being of either gender wanting to look their best. However, I do have an issue with a magazine that encourages women to be happy with themselves running ads that promote the opposite. These ads allude to the fact that women are not going be successful, achieve anything on any level, be recognized, or possess an intelligent thought unless they have perfect, ageless, hairless skin; bright white, straight smiles and thin bodies dressed in clothing that costs more than my monthly mortgage payment. In other words, according to the ads, if your skin breaks out, your teeth are crooked, you have arm hair, carry excess weight and dress in Wal-Mart clothing, feel inferior because YOU ARE. 

Yes, I understand that magazines have to run ads in order to stay in business. But is it ok to be hypocritical? The messages in the ads are in conflict with the message the magazine is supposedly trying to send.
Are they thinking that people don’t really pay attention to the ads anyway? That we are too stupid to recognize an incongruous relationship? Does it not seem that the businesses are taking advantage of feminine insecurities? Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill?

If I purchased a magazine such as Glamour, Vogue, Elle, Mademoiselle, or Cosmopolitan, I would expect ads that support the idea that we are never enough without the help of beauty aids or surgery. But not a magazine that emphasizes inner beauty and strength. 

And, yes, it’s kind of difficult to argue when the magazine is available for FREE which makes the ads of the utmost importance. But I still have an issue with the discrepancy between the magazine content and the ad content. 

Either they’re talking out of both sides of their mouths or I am over analyzing.        

Friday, August 5, 2011

TGIF HOPS!

It's the end of another week!  That means it's time for the FRIDAY HOPS! If you are here for FIVE QUESTION FRIDAY only, then just scroll down!

Have a FANTASTIC weekend!

First is Hilary's Follow Friday Four Fill-In at Feeling Beachie!  


Hillary says:  I would LOVE it if you could please help me spread the word about this hop!

This week’s statements:

1. I find it very difficult to stay focused in this HEAT/HUMIDITY mix that we've been having. AND, there's no relief in sight. 

2. No matter how hard I try, I really can’t stand to be nice to mean people. I start out ok and then they just push the button one time too many and BOOM!- I explode all over them.

3. My significant other is jumping up and down on my last nerve right now.

4. I wish Hubs would stop jumping up and down on my last nerve.


Next is Five Question Friday from Mama M. at My Little Life. 

This HOP is a great way to get to know each other better and to meet new friends!  If you click on the button, it'll take you right over there to join in the fun! 


Questions for Friday, August 5th:

1. Do you have siblings and are you close with them? Yes, I have THREE younger brothers. I am very close with one of them. I'm a little close with another one. Then there's the one who doesn't get along with anyone in the world so, I am not close with him at all.

2. Would you rather be slightly UNDER weight or slightly OVER weight? HA! Either would be better than GROSSLY OVER weight which is what I am right now.

3. What's your favorite State Fair food to splurge on? I've never been to the State fair so I have no idea.

4. What are your thoughts on your kid(s) going to school in a few weeks? The only school the lovelies have now are one in undergrad and one in grad school. The other two have completed their studies. HOWEVER, when they were little I dreaded the whole going back to school scenario. We had such fun during the summers and it was boring when they went back to school. 

5. Pool or Ocean? For swimming? POOL. Every time. Just for hanging out and such, ocean.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

HUMP DAY HOPS!

I've got TWO fun HUMP DAY HOPS! If you're here for Wednesday Hodge Podge only, then scroll down.

The first is a new/revised meme from Patrice at Everyday Ruralty called Chats on the farmhouse porch!


 1. What season was your wedding? If you aren't married, the what season is your birthday? Winter for both wedding (not really a wedding just an exchange of vows...I hate wedding falderal) and birthday.

2. What names did you call your grandparents?(ie- grandma, granny, gran, grammie) My mother's parents were Grandmother and Granddaddy.  My dad's mother was GrandMooore but his dad had passed before I was born--I probably would have called him Granddaddy Moore. 

3. What's your favorite smell that comes from your oven? Any of the Christmas goodies that I bake every year. The house smells so yummy!

4. If you eat eggs- scrambled, fried, over easy, sunny side up, or other? I am not eating eggs right now but only because I save calories by eating the Egg Beaters--and I usually eat the egg whites of those.  Anyway, when I do eat eggs I like them just about any way at all-of course, the scrambled ones must have cheese and ketchup on them! But my favorite is poached. Always has been. 

5. What's the tidiest room in your house? What's the messiest? The tidiest (haha) room is the main room/living room--the room you come into when you first enter the house. The messiest, right now, is the family room because everything that Birdie didn't take to Texas and DoodleBug didn't take to her new house got dumped down there. 


Now it's time for WEDNESDAY HODGE PODGE from Joyce at From This Side of the Pond.  This meme is a great way to get to know some wonderful new bloggy friends and learn more about some old ones...not that I'm calling anyone OLD, mind you.   



1. Share a favorite song lyric.

I better not see 'I can't think of one' on anybody's paper. That's an automatic F in the Wednesday Hodgepodge you know. 
No worries Joyce! The problem here is narrowing it down...I will only list 3, but I could go on and on and on and on with this one!

Ok, there's this one from Joni Mitchell's Carey: Come on down to the Mermaid Cafe and I will buy you a bottle of wine, And we'll laugh and toast to nothing and smash our empty glasses down...

And from Ripple by The Grateful Dead: If my words did glow with the gold of sunshine, And my tunes were played on the harp unstrung, Would you hear my voice come thru the music, Would you hold it near as it were your own?

Or how about Suite Judy Blue Eyes by CSN: Something inside is telling me that I've got your secret Are you still listening? Fear is the lock and laughter the key to your heart and I love you...

2. When was the last time someone yelled at you? The only person who yells at me is Hubs- he doesn't do it very often but when he does it INFURIATES me. I realize that this only happens when he's frustrated (his family is forever frustrating him beyond belief) but I really don't care. I hate yelling. Yelling does NOT cause me to lend a sympathetic anything. Yelling makes a person lose all their credibility. 


3. Money, fame, happiness...are they mutually exclusive?  I believe this all hinges on the individual involved. I believe a person can have one by itself or a combination of two or all three. They do not have to be mutually exclusive nor do they depend on one another.

4. What is your favorite dish to prepare for family and friends that doesn't require turning on the stove, oven or an outdoor grill? A huge garden salad with all the fixings! I could eat a garden salad every day of the week.

5. The first week of August is National Simplify Your Life Week. What is one thing you could do this week to simplify your life? Will you do it? I could organize. This is an ongoing task for me and, yes, I am working on it this week just like I work on it every other week. UGH.

6. On a scale of 1-10 (with 10 being 100% and 1 being not at all) how tuned in are you to your country's national political scene?  I'm probably around an 8 on this one.

7. What are your final parting words to the month of July?  Good riddance!  It was TOO hot; TOO humid; TOO emotional (having Birdie move to Texas for TWO years).  Of course, the ONE AND ONLY saving grace about July was DoodleBug's birthday!

8. Insert your own random thought here. I'm glad I bought Tucker the little backpack so I can carry him when he gets too hot/tired to walk further. We've used it for the second day now and it has worked out fine in that I am able to walk for an hour or more instead of coming home after only 30 minutes. HOWEVER, when you put a little ten pound dog in that thing and add the brutality of the heat/humidity mix, IT'S NOT THAT EASY TO CARRY THAT EXTRA WEIGHT FOR A MILE OR MORE. This makes me wonder how I ever did anything but sit on my big fat butt before I lost the 34 lbs that I've lost so far. Geez, if when I get ALL the excess weight off I should be able to run a freaking marathon!

Monday, August 1, 2011

Fessin' Up: Week 8

Another summer Monday has arrived and that means it's time for the Slimmer this Summer update/check-in/fess up post for week number 8.

My goals for the challenge remain safe.

Water intake: Still getting in the 64 oz plus.

Exercise: I walked every day again for a WEEKLY total of 13 miles and  I continued Pilates 5 of the 7 days- alternating my focus between the Pilates fat burning workout and the focus group (arms and abs). The heat around here is STILL of the brutal type.

Calories: The calories remain within the challenge limit---



Here's the breakdown for week 8:
  • Monday: 1366
  • Tuesday: 1253
  • Wednesday: 1154
  • Thursday:1190
  • Friday: 1098
  • Saturday:1231
  • Sunday: 1322
  • WEEKLY TOTAL: 8614  calories
Discoveries?  Yes. I have discovered that no matter how well I've done so far with the support of this challenge, I still have to battle that stupid jerkface sh*t head inner voice that tries to get me to fall off the wagon.  It hasn't worked but SERIOUSLY when the hell will he take the hike of no return?!  Enough is enough already.


Goal changes? None this week.

Here are the numbers for week 8:



Weight loss:  -1 lb (Total for 8 weeks: 34 pounds gone forever!)And, NO, I am NOT frustrated because of only 1 lost pound. I'll take any loss I can get and I am aware that it had to slow down at some point. I'm surprised (and grateful) that it hasn't done so until now. We women do have those hateful weight fluctuations.

Inches: -1 total (chest:= -0"; hips = -1"; waist = -0"; neck = -0")  Total for 8 weeks:-20.5 inches off forever!



Hope everyone has a fantabulous week! And don't forget to tell you inner voice to $%^& off!

Sunday, July 31, 2011

The Week in the Proverbial Nutshell

All in all, a rather boring week around here. I had about as much excitement as watching the grass grow.

Anyway, here's my week in a:



Last Sunday was DoodleBug's 20th birthday.  We had a family dinner to celebrate.  The big party was later that night at her house downtown---it lasted until 4:00 AM the next morning.  I remember those days, but I sure can't live them anymore!
What's a birthday without a little Wii Just Dance?

This is DoodleBug sitting in Birdie's seat at the table. Birdie and Breezy cannot stand for anyone to sit in the seats that they sat in while growing up. DoodleBug couldn't resist the urge to sit there since Birdie had already moved to Texas.

And then they thought it would be clever to put a picture of Birdie at her seat and pretend to be laughing at something she said. That's Hubs, Caroline, Birdie's boytoy- Evwardo, DoodleBug and Mimi.

DoodleBug wanted an ice cream cake for her birthday.  Apparently, those aren't as easy to find anymore. WTH?! Hubs finally got a small one from Publix.

And now we are 20!

Make a wish!


Monday morning it was so freaking hot/humid that I came home from our walk with a sinus headache. UGH. BUT, Tuesday and Wednesday mornings, we awoke to RAIN FILLED STORMS! Oh but it was GLORIOUS! And now it's over. We've walked in sauna like atmosphere since.  Well, that's not exactly true.  Thursday was as close to pleasant as it gets around here during the summer months. It's quite difficult to go as far as I'd like for our walks because the heat is just too much for Tuck. So, I ordered him a doggie backpack. Now, when he gets hot or tired, I will put him inside and carry him the rest of the way! The Lovelies are laughing at me, but I do not care. Can't you just visualize my little Tucky in that? This will be awesome!

All is not lost however.  Football preseason is a mere 11 days away!  Even though it's NOT going to be football weather around here, football WILL be on the big screen television every single time it's broadcast!  Oh how I love me some football!  Some of you may recall that the Carolina Panthers took first place away from my wonderful Cowboys in 1995 just because it was nice to have a local team (I'm originally from the Charlotte area).  Well, the love affair is about to be over.   It's not because they've been losing so badly...if that were the case I'd have dropped them way before now--I can handle a losing team (I don't like it, but I can handle it).  They finally got a new coach which we desperately needed. But I don't like him.  They signed Cam Newton. But I totally disagreed them (they don't know if they have a decent quarterback or not because the offensive line SUCKED it up so bad last year).  They just cut John Kasay. But I totally disagree with that decision. Of course, none of this means I'm right and they're wrong. Nevertheless, it has now come down to this:  One more thing, just one more thing, and I drop them down to second (IF they're lucky) and my beloved Cowboys come back to the number one spot and I will be seeking their forgiveness all season.

Birdie had a bad day on Thursday.  She was a little homesick and was hitting a lot of road blocks with the whole moving thing---nothing out of the ordinary, just the usual frustrating things that we've all hit before.  I gave her a pep talk, even though I really just wanted to cry with her and tell her to say, "Screw it" and come on home.  Then I called Hubs and yelled at him because she was so far away.  Don't worry, he's used to me. By Friday she was feeling much better and things are going fine now.  But this is one of the things I hate--not being able to be there.  She's too far away.  And her neighbors, while they aren't bad, aren't friendly either.  Which sucks.  But, I told her that she will come out of the experience an even stronger and more independent young woman.  ALSO, she has been having some trouble with Charlie for a while now- he has become increasingly more aggressive. He started out growling and barking at people and dogs but has now begun biting. Yesterday, he tried to attack Birdie. Apparently, the owners of Charlie's siblings are having similar issues. Birdie has worked tirelessly with Charlie to no avail. She talked to a shelter yesterday (a non-kill shelter) and they don't take aggressive dogs. The shelter and the vets that Birdie talked to told her the best thing to do is put him down. Birdie does NOT want to do this. So, we are seeking any and all suggestions/advice from anyone possessing wisdom in this area.

DoodleBug moved to a different house this weekend. The landlords of her place wanted to double the rent so--OUCH! That would make them each (FOUR of them) paying over $600 per month and that includes NOTHING. So they moved--they wanted to move anyway to a better location. And it's all good. EXCEPT for the lazy/responsibility avoider roomie who went out of town (no, it wasn't important, just a trip with the boytoy and she even said it was a bad time to go but went anyway) and didn't come back (conveniently) until everything but her personal stuff had already been moved. They needed to get everything out and cleaned up so the new tenant (idiot for paying that much for rent but that's his business) could move in last night. So, DoodleBug moved all her own stuff as well as all the community stuff and had to clean because lazy/responsibility avoider roomie couldn't see her way clear to do her part. I am not happy. This is also the lazy/responsibility avoider roomie who wanted to get the utilities in her name and not have any of the parents involved but didn't bother telling DoodleBug she wasn't going to do it until Friday night. I don't know about your utility companies, but ours are closed on the weekends. I'm starting to see a very disturbing pattern here. One good thing? Karma will bite her in her lazy/responsibility avoider rear one day. I just hope I'm around to see it.  

I thought I'd had a rather boring week. But, reading back over everything I see it as more of an emotional turmoil week. Ups/downs; highs/lows...life. 
Looking for good things for everyone this week! Let's be positive! And remember to smile-- It makes people wonder what you've been up to!